22 5 / 2013
I THOUGHT THIS WAS KIDDING SOGMLASG
brb going to explode all my reblog symbols
06 4 / 2013
It was this (^) quote that did it for me. I reject that point blank. Okay, not point blank. I obviously don’t have a problem with LOVE. But the quote implies that romanticlove is the end all to human existence. You know the drill: every movie ever – whether it’s about dancing adolescents or singing penguins or the end of all human life as we know it – ends with the boy and girl riding off into the sunset (even if they only have two more seconds to live and ‘love’). This narrow view has corrupted and consumed many a person to the point of obsession. But not me! :D
Here is my current list of why I am (really) happy to be single:
1. Relationships are hard
When my first relationship ended in 2009 (I think?) my first coherent thought after all the pain had subsided was, “Well…that sucked.” It wasn’t the relationship itself that sucked, so if you’re planning on writing off my opinions because I’m a “bitter woman”, better luck next time! My boyfriend and relationship were really GREAT. But relationships take a lot of time, a lot of effort, and a lot of commitment. And face it: relationships can be super stressful sometimes. And considering the fact that your relationship is probablygoing to end anyway (not being mean but odds are, it is…jus sayin’) the effort is just NOT WORTH IT! Now I don’t know if I’m just messed up (and I highly doubt I am) but I would much rather dedicate all that time and effort on something else that will actually…oh I don’t know…benefit me; make me a better person; help others – that kinda stuff. Really, the amount of effort the average person in a relationship spends on the relationship is totally disproportionate to how much the relationship actually improves his/her life. Really. Which brings me to my next point.
2. Relationships change who you are
Don’t deny it. This is totally unavoidable. Once you align yourself that closely with someone, you are bound to change. This is not necessarily a bad thing, but I’ve had enough experience (through observation mainly, but still experience nonetheless) to know that it usually is. Why? You are in a RELATIONSHIP, dude. All the feels and emotions have turned you into a love monster who would do ANYTHING for that special guy/girl. But is that necessarily good for you? Most of the time, it’s not, and ridiculously so. I’ve seen people who literally drop everything in a way that is obviously unhealthy, to people who drop little aspects of themselves in a way that is more subtly unhealthy – just for the sake of their “relationship.” And this sweeps right across the board for both men and women. My qualm is that there is so much more to YOU – so many little quirks and traits that you might be sacrificing. I remember how much I was willing to sacrifice in my first relationship, and I can look back and say I am GLAD that it ended because I would have never become the person I am now if it hadn’t. And I quite like the person I am now! :) My point is, most people (especially young ones) are not mature enough to understand that the kind of no-holds-barred, whole-hearted commitment they exhibit in their relationships doesn’t help in their development. And if you aren’t you, then you can’t be happy! Which brings me to my final point…
3. Relationships don’t make you happy
SOUN DI BIG TING DEM! Ring the alarm! This is a day in history! Yes people, relationships really don’t make you happy. I’ve seen enough miserable people in relationships to have gotten that point square in the face a long time ago. And I know many persons (like Yours Truly *bats eyelashes*) who are blissfully happy and not in a relationship. The problem is, society makes it seem like that is ‘weird’. Like, “…seriously…who is actually happy single? Lolol.” I’ve had enough people ask me, “So how come you don’t have a boyfriend?” to understand that for most people, ‘in a relationship’ is the default state of being. But the hands down winner was when a friend of mine said to me in relation to my singleness that I “deserved to be happy” and I “need love and affection.” Lolwut?!?! So I am totally starved for love and affection and not happy in any way simply because I don’t have a boyfriend? That’s totally crazy. My happiness is not dependent on that one factor; there are so many things in the world that make me happy, and just enough persons from whom I receive love and affection. Moral: if you’re looking for a relationship to make you happy…you never will be.
There is SO MUCH MORE to life than being in a relationship. No, like really. Don’t allow the quest for a mate consume you to the point where you miss out on the beauty that is LIVING. My newest philosophy is that “Life is a journey, not a destination.” Life is not some series of steps culminating in the final event of “GETTING MARRIED” or “HAVING A BABY” or even “DEATH”. Life is a collection of experiences, and each day you have the potential to experience ones that are rife with beauty and exquisiteness and joy (and some awful ones as well, but who said life was a bed of roses…) so don’t miss out on that! Now, whether you’re single or in a relationship, go be happy!
14 2 / 2013
02 2 / 2013
I am so excited about the future! Today was one of those days that definitely changed my life. I will no longer allow fear to dominate my decisions. I will no longer be afraid of failure. I will plunge head-first into the future, and embrace whatever it brings.